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Dashed Hopes, Broken Dreams, Crushed Expectations?

“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1 King James Version (KJV)

“Don’t Get Your Hopes Up!” We’ve heard that advice all our lives. Family, friends, books and movies have all warned us not to get our hopes up. It’s part of our popular culture. You may even say it yourself, but did you ever think about what you’re saying?

“Get your hopes up!
Expect something good to happen to you every day.”
– Joyce Meyer

“Don’t Get Your Hopes Up!” We’ve heard that advice all our lives. Family, friends, books and movies have all warned us not to get our hopes up. It’s part of our popular culture. You may even say it yourself, but did you ever think about what you’re saying?

Like most people, I absorbed this teaching by osmosis. I also remember when I said it for the last time.

Don’t Get Your Hopes Up is possibly the worst guidance ever. It’s advising us not to hope, not to believe and not to have desires – and in doing so, it impedes an effective prayer life, it’s counterproductive in your relationship with the Lord and essentially ties God’s hands from moving in your life. Why? If you open your Bible to Hebrews 11:6, it say’s, “But without faith it is impossible to please Him [God]: for he that comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”

I was in my 20’s and I was telling my brother about a job I really wanted, adding that I’m not getting my hopes up about it. Whereupon my older, wiser brother – who had by that time studied Eastern philosophy in India – pointed out how stupid I was being – as only a sibling can! He went on to explain why not getting my hopes up is ridiculous. Thank you, dear bro, for waking me up.

So why IS it ridiculous to avoid getting our hopes up? Besides the fact that it’s unnatural to quash our hopes and dreams and besides the fact that it keeps our vibration low, it’s all fear-based.

It’s based on some crazy fear that if we don’t get what we’re hoping for, we’ll end up feeling disappointed. But I ask you, is disappointment really too much to bear? Isn’t disappointment a part of life that most of us learned by age 5 is survivable?

Here’s the most significant thing. To refuse to get our hopes up is to ignore the Law of Attraction. Because hope is a high vibration. Because the power of hope and positive expectation actually help us attract what we want. Because hope works for us, not against us!

“If you don’t have a dream,
how you gonna have a dream come true?”
– from the movie, South Pacific

Plus, I hasten to add, hope feels good! Refusing to be hopeful is a missed opportunity to feel good. And, since we know that feeling good is the best way to attract what we want, refusing to hope is like shooting yourself in the foot.

If you don’t get what you want, you’ll live; you’ll grow; you’ll get greater clarity; something better will come along. But if you continue suppressing your hope, you won’t live well.

And one more thing. Refusing to get our hopes up does not guarantee we’ll avoid disappointment. In fact, refusing to hope sets us up for disappointment.

Two questions:
*Do you want it?
*Will you allow yourself to have it?

If yes and yes, then absolutely do get your hopes up. Get them up as high as possible. Ride the high vibrational energy of positive expectation and enjoy the journey. If it doesn’t happenFind Article, so what? Focus on the next desire with all the hope you can muster. And keep hope alive!

Bible verses related to Hope from the King James Version (KJV)

Romans 12:12 – Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;

Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

Romans 15:13 – Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.

Deuteronomy 31:6 – Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he [it is] that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.

Romans 5:2-5 – By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.

Isaiah 40:31 – But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew [their] strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; [and] they shall walk, and not faint.

Isaiah 41:10 – Fear thou not; for I [am] with thee: be not dismayed; for I [am] thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.

Psalms 39:7 – And now, Lord, what wait I for? my hope [is] in thee.

Mark 9:23 – Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe, all things [are] possible to him that believeth.

1 Corinthians 13:13 – And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these [is] charity.

Romans 8:24 – For we are saved by hope: but hope that is seen is not hope: for what a man seeth, why doth he yet hope for?

Proverbs 23:18 – For surely there is an end; and thine expectation shall not be cut off.

Proverbs 10:28 – The hope of the righteous [shall be] gladness: but the expectation of the wicked shall perish.

Romans 8:25 – But if we hope for that we see not, [then] do we with patience wait for [it].

Jeremiah 17:7 – Blessed [is] the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is.

Psalms 71:14 – But I will hope continually, and will yet praise thee more and more.